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Well, I have taken a long hiatus from writing anything and I decided to try again…so here we go! 

I will hopefully be posting regularly about everything we have going on and some things that have happened over the past year. I don’t even feel like I have words to fully describe this year right now. 

I will hopefully have a real post up later today!

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Bag I made!

   
 
I made this fun bag for my little sister! My “thing” is making stuff. Whether it’s sewing, painting, crafting, crocheting, or whatever else, that is my outlet and it helps keep me somewhat sane! 

I can definitely tell when I haven’t gotten to create in a while so sometimes this ends up taking priority over things I “need” to do, like housework. ๐Ÿ˜œ

Jewelry I’ve been working on lately

   
    
    
    
    
    
 
I finally have all my Christmas orders shipped out! What a relief for me as towards the end I was feeling a little crunched for time! Sometimes it’s hard for me to find time to work on orders because of my boys…almost 4, 2, and 9 months, I think that says it all!! If you want to see all the jewelry I have for sale checkout my ShElliott’s Creations Facebook page or  ShElliott’s Creations Etsy shop! You can also follow me on Instagram @shelliottscreations !!

When Your VBA2C Doesn’t Happen…

After a long, hard labor, my 1st baby was delivered via c-section. He was 8lbs 4oz & 21.5″. Not a HUGE baby, but a big baby for me. He was sunny side up (so I had horrible back labor), and after pushing and then getting swollen, he was not coming out the way we wanted him to. Our doctor told us we would need to have a c section and I didn’t have a second thought. I was ready for our baby to be born. I had no idea that after that it would be hard to have a vaginal birth. I had no idea what a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean) was. I had no idea the hospital where we live had a VBAC ban. I had no idea how the recovery would be. Soon after the birth we found out what a VBAC was and because of the risks of repeat cesarean sections and the fact that we wanted to have a big family we decided next time we would try for a VBAC.

We got pregnant with our second baby just before our first turned 1. We asked our doctor at our first appointment if we could VBAC. He said NO. “Your babies are too big for you to birth vaginally.” So we said, “ok.” That was that, we planned on having a CBAC (cesarean birth after cesarean) and towards the end of the pregnancy we scheduled the birth date. I was nervous, I didn’t know how recovery would go with a 19 month old toddler running around like crazy and now a newborn to take care of. I had thought that maybe if I went into labor before the scheduled date that we would just wait and then go into the hospital ready to push and we could have the baby that way. I really thought about it. Then, I didn’t go into labor before the big day and we ended up having our second sweet boy also via c section. He was 8lbs 3oz & 19.5″. Another big boy. After we had him nursing was hard. I wasn’t able to nurse our first baby and again, I wasn’t able to nurse our second baby either. That was frustrating, I really wanted to nurse this baby but ended up switching to formula after about a week. I also felt like it took longer for my incision to fully heal and that was really frustrating.

We ended up getting pregnant with our third baby right before our second baby turned one. So, there would be almost exactly the same difference in age between them. We went to our first appointment with the same doctor who performed our first two c sections. We again, talked to him about trying for a VBAC, only this time it would be a VBA2C. He again said no, told us about the VBAC ban at our local hospital and just advised that it wouldn’t be a good idea.

Well, I had pretty much already made up my mind that I wanted to try for a VBA2C. I searched for VBAC friendly doctors in our area. I called every single one of them to see if they were accepting patients. I called almost every single hospital in the state to see if they had a VBAC ban in place. I finally found a VBAC friendly doctor in a town that did not have a VBAC ban in place at the hospital. It was 2.5 hrs away. We scheduled a consultation for as soon as possible. We went and talked with the doctor about our previous births, pros and cons of VBAC vs. CBAC, our success %, and everything else we could think of. We decided that he was the doctor that we wanted to use, we just had to wait for him to have a meeting with his 5 colleagues and they all had to decide whether or not they would accept us as a patient since any one of them could be on call when we went into labor. After what seemed like forever (but was actually a few weeks), we got a call saying they decided they would take us. We were so excited because that meant we were that much closer to getting out VBAC!

Then we had the monthly appointments, that turned into every-other-week appointments, that turned into weekly appointments, then the day came when the doctor we saw said if you don’t have the baby this weekend then we may try to “get things going” at your next appointment.

I had done the research.

I had found the doctor.

I had found the hospital.

We had driven 2.5 hrs one way for doctors appointment for 9 months.

I had read the books.

I had joined the facebook groups and talked with other moms about their experiences.

I had asked all the questions.

Made the plans.

Knew all the pros and cons.

Knew we were going to have our baby via VBA2C.

Then one morning at 3am we were on our way to the hospital. It was really happening. We got there and after being checked & monitored we were admitted. The doctor said we were having our baby today!! We were so excited!! We called my parents who lived 1.5hrs away to come get the boys. Then we labored all day and things were going well! Then it was time to push! Finally!! Soon, we hoped our baby would be here. Then after pushing for almost 4 hrs our doctor said she wanted to try using a vacuum to help baby out. He (at the time we didn’t know he was a he.) was right there and using the vacuum would help him out quickly! Then we tried for over another 45 minutes but without success. I started having a feeling that we were going to need another cesarean section. My heart was breaking. After a while our doctor talked to us and said she thought it was time to go ahead with the cesarean.

My husband agreed. I agreed. I was crushed. At 8:47pm that evening we had our third baby boy, 8lbs 10.3oz & 21.5″. Another big boy. Too big for me. I was so heartbroken and so overjoyed at the same time. A feeling that is so hard to express.

So, I just want to tell all you Mamas who didn’t get your VBAC, I’ve been there. I’ve tried. I’ve given it everything I had then had things turn out the opposite of how I planned. I’ve had to hold back the tears at baby showers when other women were talking about their own birth experiences. I’ve had to take a break and step away to hold back the tears. I’ve been the 3rd time Mama who has had to accept way more help then she wanted to. I’ve been the tired, hurting, discouraged Mama whose incision just won’t seem to heal 4 months later.

I’ve been there.

I just want you to know: YOU are strong. YOU are brave. YOU are courageous. YOU are NOT a failure. YOU ARE AMAZING.

-X0X0, Shelby

 

8 months

Krew is 8 months old today! He is such a happy little boy and is so much fun. These past 8 months have flown by and I can’t remember what life was like without all 3 or our boys.

He is army crawling all over the place, he can go from crawling to sitting up or vice versa all by himself. He is pulling himself up on anything and everything that he can get his little hands on. He loves feeding himself puffs and yogurt bites. He slept through the night for around 1.5-2 months (around August-September) but now he is back to waking up at least 1 or 2 times a night. Sometimes I wonder if he will ever sleep through a whole night since Bridger and Logan both started sleeping through the night at around 7-8 weeks, but Krew is the first baby I’ve been able to nurse, so if the other boys woke up I just gave them a bottle in their crib and they would go back to sleep…Krew on the other hand spends mostย  of his nights going back and forth between Mommy and Daddy’s bed and his crib. The last time I weighed him he was 23lbs, I need to measure him and see how tall he has gotten. He is definitely more of a Mama’s boy then B or L and I think that is because he is the only one I’ve been able to nurse and so I think the max amount of time I’ve ever been away from him is about 3 hours. He loves his big brothers and he follows them all around the house. He will crawl right after them into their bedroom and start playing with toys like he has been doing it forever. He is the sweetest, happiest baby boy and I’m beyond blessed to get to be his mommy!!

-Shelby

12 Gauge Bling Jewelry

I am always looking for new and unique designs for my jewelry. A few weeks ago I came across a necklace blank and a bracelet blank that instantly gave me an idea for some new pieces…

They can be purchased (HERE) and (HERE). I think they are both fun and unique pieces!

I love dreaming up new ideas for my jewelry and also doing custom orders for people. Sometimes people come to me with a shotgun shell or a bullet that has a lot of sentimental meaning for them. I’ve had bullets that have been used to shoot their first deer or elk, and I’ve also had shotgun shells that were shot by a loved one who has since passed. I am honored to be able to make something for them that they can wear everyday and either relive special memories or help hold the memory of a loved one near.

To check out the rest of my jewelry checkout my facebook page or visit my Etsy store: ShElliott’s Creations

Wear My Baby

   
 
About a year and a half ago, when Logan was about 4 months old, I bought a used Moby Wrap off a garage sale sight. I had seen them advertised on the Internet and my sister in law uses one and I thought they looked pretty cool. I mean, how hard could it be? It’s just a long piece of fabric you wrap around yourself and the babe… 

So, I tried it one time when we were shopping. Logan hated it, he screamed as soon as I put him in it and then didn’t calm down until I took him out of it. Needless to say, it got packed away and hasn’t seen daylight since. 

Fast forward to present time. Krew, baby boy #3 is 3.5 months old. I got a new Moby at his baby shower and let me tell you, that thing is a necessity. I decided to try it out a little while after I got it, but before I did anything I read the instruction booklet front-to-back and then watched multiple YouTube videos on how to properly use it. 

We got it to work this time! Krew loves it! Sometimes it is the only way I can get him to take a nap. By the time you have more babies than arms/hands Babywearing absolutely comes in handy. 

If Krew isn’t tired he will just enjoy the ride and watch the world go by. But if he is sleepy, he will be out for the count in no time! 

It also makes grocery shopping so much easier! If I didn’t use it when shopping I would need two carts, one for babies and one for food. ๐Ÿ˜‚ But with the Moby then Logan can sit in the cart and Bridger can walk with me or ride in the front. So much easier than pushing one cart and pulling another. Or having Bridger (who is only 3) push a small cart, we tried that once and it was quite the experience. Pretty entertaining for those shopping with us that day, race car sounds and all. 

I really love my Moby but there are a few downsides. Mine is black, and it is so hot! They say the wrap can go up to 35lbs but Krew is just under 20lbs and it doesn’t feel as secure as it used to. A lot of other baby wearing mamas have said that the Moby is perfect for the newborn stage but not so great after that. Plus there is really only one way to wear your baby, which is on your tummy, whether it’s tummy to tummy or back to tummy so they can see in front of you. 

Woven wraps on the other hand are so much more versatile, you can do front, back, or hip carries. They aren’t stretchy like a Moby so there isn’t really a weight limit besides what you are comfortable with. There are different lengths for different types of carries and different sized mamas. I just ordered my first woven wrap off of a BST page of Facebook and I’m so excited for it to get here so I can use it!!